Going through a break up is a horrible emotional experience. If you have ever heard the song “Need You Now” by Lady Antebellum, if you haven’t I suggest giving it a listen, it’s a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through all the pain of a break up and making a lot of mistakes.
Here’s a line from the song: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.” Rule number one, Stop The Desperate Dialing!
Here is another line: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m a little drunk and I need you now.” Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist. That will not work either.
What do you do if you want to get your ex back?
Be truthful with yourself and ask yourself this question: Do I absolutely want my ex back? Take hard look at everything here and make sure the true love is really there and this is not just a reaction to being alone or feeling by your self.
If you answered with a confident, yes I want my ex back! Then there is a process to follow.
Make SUre You Do Not Do What Is Expected
At this time being predictable is the last thing you want to do. Keep your ex guessing and make them work their way back into your good standing. If you keep them on their toes they will keep coming back for more.
How can you avoid doing what is expected? By breaking from routine. The odds are good that following the same old routine is what led you to this place to begin with. It’s time to shake things up and do something a little new, different, and exciting.
Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals
Even though you’re apart you can still set goals. If you’re trying to get your ex back, goal setting is an important part of the process. Set goals for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then set out to achieve those goals.
Here is a list of goals you will want to consider: reaching emotional milestones, making physical changes and being able to control your temper to start with. It will be up to you to choose the type of goals that pertain to your relationship.
Make Sure You Hold Yourself Accountable For Both Your Success And Failures
Accountability is something that is in surprisingly short supply lately. Be accountable to yourself for failing to meet goals. At the same time you should also reward yourself for the goals you do achieve.
Two great motivators are reward and punishment. Use them to your advantage. Here are some rewards you might consider: a night on the town with friends, a new hair style, or a new video game. Try to make sure you are doing things that will help you to have an active lifestyle. You don’t want to do things that make existing problems worse by creating a health issue.
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